The importance of self-compassion for doctors

13 September 2021

Having compassion for oneself is no different to having compassion for others. With self-compassion, we give ourselves the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend. Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards ourselves when we are experiencing a difficult time, failure, or notice something we don’t like about ourselves. 

Instead of just ignoring our pain with a ‘stiff upper lip’ mentality, we stop to tell ourselves, “This is really difficult right now, how can I comfort and care for myself in this moment?” Instead of mercilessly judging and criticising ourselves for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means we are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings. After all, who ever said we are supposed to be perfect?

There are three elements to self-compassion:

1. Self-kindness versus self-judgment
Self-compassionate people recognise that being imperfect, failing and experiencing life difficulties is inevitable, so they tend to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful experiences rather than getting angry when life falls short of set ideals.

2. Common humanity versus isolation
Self-compassion involves recognising that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience – something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to ‘me’ alone.

3. Mindfulness versus over-identification
Self-compassion involves putting our own situation into a larger perspective. It also stems from the willingness to observe our negative thoughts and emotions with openness and clarity, so that they are held in mindful awareness.

For doctors, self-compassion may include:

Visit for more information about self-compassion. Dr Kristin Neff (PhD) is widely recognised as one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion.

Kay Dunkley
AMA Victoria Coordinator of Doctor Wellbeing

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